This is the Law number 13 – The Law of Modeling. As read and understood by me.
Its Hard to Improve When You have No One but yourself to follow
The most important personal-growth phrase you will ever hear a good leader to say to you is “follow me”
Resources have a little value unless you can pull from them the essentials that you need. That means learning to take useful notes, gathering quotes and reflecting on what you learn – Make these a part of your daily discipline. Make your car into a classroom by listening to CD’s that can help you grow.
Whom Should I follow?
Most people who decide to grow personally find their first mentors in pages of BOOKS.
A good mentor is a worthy example
- Seek a mentor who not only talks the talk, but walks the walk.
Most people who decide to grow personally find their first mentors in pages of BOOKS.
You must be selective when it comes to choosing mentors and models.
- A mentor’s personal life must reflect the highest standards
It is not possible to divorce private behavior from public leadership. If values aren’t established and adhered to at the top, behavior down the ranks is seriously jeopardized and undermined.
A good mentor is available
Andrew Carnegie said “As I grow older I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.”
- A mentor must be able to spend time with you to pour into your life
The greatest Leadership challenge is leading me. Teaching people what to do is easy. Showing them is much more difficult.
In the beginning when you are starting out spend majority of your time being mentored by people who are available, willing, and suited for the stage of your career.
- You may change mentors as you advance
A good mentor has proven experience
- Seek mentors who have been doing what they do for a long time.
To know the road ahead, ask those coming back – Chinese proverb
Every time you enter into a new venture, seek advice of people with proven experience.
A good mentor possesses wisdom
- Wisdom is knowing what to do with what you know.
- Never confuse talent with wisdom
Never confuse the giftedness of a person with the person. Their gifts allow them to do amazing things but the person may be flawed, which will eventually cause harm- FRED SMITH
- Wisdom can often be passed on in few words
A good mentor provides friendship and support
- A mentor will let you know they care for you.
Great things happen whenever we stop seeing ourselves as God’s gift to others, and being seeing others as God’s gift to us. – James S. Vuocolo
- Don’t confuse someone who wants to give you advice with being a mentor
- A mentor will lead from both the head and the heart
A good mentor is a coach who makes a difference in people’s lives
- A coach carries someone from where they are to where they want to be.
Consider some these names for ‘coach” from other cultures: (all of which mean one who goes before and shows the way.)
- Sensei – one who has traveled further down the path
- Guru – “gu” darkness, “ru” – someone who brings light to darkness
- Lama – one with spiritual authority
- Maestro – a master of music
- Tutor – a private teacher
- Guide – one who shows the way
- Mentor – a wise and trusted counselor
Coaches make a difference in others’ lives. They help them grow. They improve their potential. They increase their productivity. They are essential to helping people effect positive change.
Self-Evaluation is helpful, but evaluation from someone else is essential.
Characteristics of a good Coach
- Care for people they coach
- Observe their attitudes, behaviors, and performance
- Align them with their strengths for peak performance
- Communicate and give feedback about their performance
- Help them improve their lives and performance
You need to ask ……………..“I need your Help”
The Law of Modeling states that YOU need a coach – everybody needs a coach